I’d rather follow my heart than follow the science

Perhaps you feel the same.

When it comes to healing a wound, treating a symptom, or even navigating a personal crisis it’s getting harder to trust yourself and to trust that you know what you’re doing. The world is full of data, statistics, studies, experts, and expert opinions. And while all of the ‘information’ may have something to offer you in the form of insight or guidance, at the end of the day, it’s not wisdom.

“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.”

― Aristotle

I once heard Bernie Siegel, author of Love, Medicine and Miracles, discuss the challenge for those of us who practice healing outside of mainstream medicine. He said that while medicine may have scientific ‘evidence’ we have something more powerful – stories.

His words brought sweet relief. I’d been under the illusion that alternative healing modalities had to ‘compete’ with mainstream medicine to ‘prove’ themselves, which was not only foolish, it was impossible. They operate in completely different paradigms.

I somehow had fallen prey to the belief that statistics are more powerful than stories. One could argue that statistics don’t lie, but they don’t necessarily tell the whole truth.

A story has a ‘life force’ within it. It carries an energetic transmission of information which enables us to feel into it and detect the truth or relevance in it for us. A story speaks to our hearts as well as our minds, helping us to make meaning in a very specific and profound way, a way that reading a statistic never could.

I may not be able to ‘prove’ how the healing works with statistics, but I do have stories. I want to share the stories of the people I’ve had the privilege to walk beside on their healing journey. I believe they illustrate more beautifully and powerfully than any bar graph ever could, the wisdom that lies within each of us, no exceptions.  

We Are Wisdom is about telling stories to remind us:

• Who we truly are.

• Of our power and self-healing abilities.

• That we have all the answers and wisdom we will ever need within us.

Above all, I hope these stories inspire you to trust in and value your own wisdom.

Enjoy!

WE ARE WISDOM: ISSUE #1

OOPS! I Found My Life Purpose Seeking Help for My Son

THE WISDOM OF KIRSTEN DUNKLEY

WE ARE WISDOM: ISSUE #2

Crafting a Life is the Ultimate Creative Act

THE WISDOM OF MEGAN HOLBECK

WE ARE WISDOM: ISSUE #3

You’re Always Beginning

THE WISDOM OF FIONA LAWRIE

OOPS! I FOUND MY LIFE PURPOSE SEEKING HELP FOR MY SON

THE WISDOM OF KIRSTEN DUNKLEY

When Kirsten first scooted (quite literally – she had a scooter) into the clinic with her son Quinn about 10 years ago, I don’t think either of us knew what we were in for!

I instantly loved Kirsten. She has a sharp mind, a dry wit, and wears her compassionate heart on her sleeve. What I most love about Kirsten’s story is that it truly demonstrates how your life purpose finds you – in one way or another, even if the messages must come through other members of your family!

In Quinn’s first session, his body stated that Kirsten should come for sessions. I had never seen that happen before. Sure, I knew that every parent who comes into the clinic would benefit from sessions just as much as their child, but this was peculiar in that Quinn’s body was literally instructing Kirsten to have a session!

Thankfully Kirsten informed me that she was always up ‘for the weird stuff’ and so she agreed to come in for a session to surrogate for Quinn. In Kinesiology terms, surrogation is the process of allowing one person’s body to stand in for another person’s body. This means that I could muscle-test Kirsten’s body to access Quinn’s body. Weird I know, but anyone who has ever experienced it quickly gets past this because the results are so mind-blowingly accurate and fascinating!

Again, Kirsten and Quinn surprised me. I assumed that Quinn just wanted to get some messages through to Kirsten about his own challenges. This was not the case. Kirsten’s session revealed some very clear instructions. For the benefit of Quinn’s healing, she needed to start actioning her life purpose. I remember feeling very privileged to be part of the process as it unfolded. It was breathtakingly beautiful; it was though Quinn had become somewhat of an angelic ‘messenger’ to help Kirsten to hear her life’s calling.

From that day forward, Kirsten came regularly for sessions. And we focused purely on her. In this child-centric era, it was trailblazing!

Kirsten’s energy has always had a very purposeful undercurrent. She is clearly highly competent, extremely intelligent, and multi-talented. Yet she found that her purposeful energy was being distracted if not consumed by taking responsibility for her entire family, assisting her kids with various problems and an unyielding addiction to the online game Fishdom. 

But I’d really like you to hear about Kirsten’s experience in her own words. Read on for the full interview.

B: What made you come to your first session?

K: I came to see you because Quinn was having trouble at school with a myriad of things. And then I came back to the next session to surrogate for Quinn. And then we discovered that all of the things in him were in me.

B: What made you continue coming to sessions?

K: Well, dealing with my shit to help Quinn mean that I was dealing with my shit! And it was so helpful, so I just had to keep doing it. And because of all the layers, there’s always layers…

B: What have the benefits been?

K: I'm able to do shit now. I couldn't do anything. I was stagnant. I was just stuck. I was full of blocks. And now I can just kind of move on with it. I mean, I still get blocks. But I just don’t get stuck in the block.

B: And, so, you came to help your son, but what did you end up getting?

K: I'm now an artist. How about that?

B: Amazing. Do you remember one of the first aha moments you had that got you on the path to being an artist?

K: I remember when I decided I could do the art course. I was talking to someone who had already done it and I kept asking her all about it every week. And she actually said to me, why don't you do it? Why don't you stop asking me? Why don't you do the course?

And I went, I couldn't do that.

And then she said, why not?

And I'm just like, oh, don't be silly. And then I'm like, actually, why not?

Which is all the stuff that I learned with you. Like, right? Why not? Why not me? What's stopping me? I know what's stopping me. It's me. I'm stopping me! I just didn't think I was worthy of it. Until then I hadn’t believed that I was worthy of having two days a week to do something that I want. And here I was challenging myself - why not? Why can't I? And then deciding: Of course, I can.

B: In your energy coaching sessions over the years, what is the main thing that have you un-learned?

K: Oh, geez I’ve unlearned that I'm not worth it. And just all the limiting beliefs, all the stuff that I used to stop myself doing things. Because I thought they were real and they weren't.

B: And what is the main thing that have you learned?

K: Earlier this year I dealt with the death of my dad. And I never thought that I would’ve dealt with it in the way that I did. I'm crying now of course, but you know, I just went through the grief process. And I've learned from you that you just have to go through stuff. It's okay. Like, you can't just erase things. You can't just wish that you didn't have to go through it. You just have to go through it. And it's fine.

With everything in life, you have to deal with it. And I can. I'm capable of dealing with it. And yeah sometimes it's hard, but it doesn't mean that you can't deal with it. It’s just your feelings. It's not good or bad. You don't have to assign a judgment or a label on anything.

So I think the main thing is that I trust that I can cope with things. And I'll be okay. Because, I mean, yes, I show up and you make me do things and you make me do all the outer spacey things and bold stuff that I'm very cynical about but you know, it all works. It's all true.

And I've got the skills to be able to see things in a different way.

I don't really know how to put that into words. But it’s like…I can see these things that go on in life, but they're not necessarily happening to me, they're just happening.

You know how there's that victim mentality where people are ‘why me?’

I've never been a why me person. But now I can see why. Stuff just happens, and you just have to go along with it because if you push against it you're just gonna end up damaged.

And I think I've got so many more skills than I ever had. It's almost like I feel like I'm more mature and more of an adult. Ha ha.

B: In what ways do you now feel more connected to yourself and your essence?

K: In lots of ways. I can't really explain it. But I guess I’d say that I feel like I'm more in my body. And I feel like I understand myself.

Before it felt like was just kind of drifting along and not really paying attention to myself and how I did things. And now I'm just like, okay, I'm aware of what's causing this or that problem in my life and that's a really good thing. I'm just able to ‘see’ myself. And that’s really cool.

B: In what ways do you now feel that you’re more truly expressing the essence of who you are?

K: It’s everywhere and in my work obviously…but it’s also in how I deal with other people. I don't deal with dickheads anymore. I don't let people make me do things that I don't want to do. I'm like “Yeah, no thank you”.  “No thank you” is my favourite phrase. I love it. I designed a nice no thank you t-shirt the other day.

B: Ha ha. Love it. And now, tell me…did you see that having sessions for yourself helped Quinn?

K: Yeah, well for both of my kids it helped. And also my relationship with them.

Whenever I was having issues with the kids, I would come to you for session and there was always something in me that was part of the issue. And I could deal with that. And it would help! It has always helped things, always. It sorted out so many issues or niggles. Like the way they used to drive me absolutely insane. I mean, they still do, but not as much. Mainly because I deal with it so differently.

B: I recall doing a lot of work on ‘boundaries’ between you and the kids. Would you say that their behaviours changed as your energetic boundaries changed?  

K: Definitely. Definitely. And the boundary ones, were always instant! Like, I would go out of a session and later that day, when they come home from school, they wouldn’t be as in my face or, you know, bothering me. It was straight away.

B: And, after a few years you began doing group sessions of energy coaching. So, to wrap up I’d just like to touch on what you like most about doing group sessions?   

K: I LOVE group sessions. It’s amazing how we always have the same issues that come up. And I love it that I don’t feel alone in it. I can really relate to what’s going on for others and they can relate to what’s going on for me.

But I've also found with the group work that it's made me able to see other people's stuff a lot more clearly. At the beginning when we’re dealing with someone else’s stuff, I’d think that it has nothing to do with me and I would like just sit and listen. But now I'm like, oh, I know what it is that is going on for them. I know what's wrong. So just that helps you do it for yourself. I love the group sessions for that. It just gives you more perspective and helps you building a skill at the same time.

Kirsten has completed a Certificate III Visual Arts at Northern College of Arts and Technology (NCAT) and a Diploma of Visual Arts at RMIT and NCAT. Her work has been featured in a number of group exhibititions.

You can check out her website here: https://www.kirstendunkleyartist.com/

And follow her on insta here: https://www.instagram.com/kirstendunkley_art/

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I love Kirsten’s story because it beautifully demonstrates several things about Energy Coaching:

FOLLOW THE FLOW

You can come with a ‘problem’ which appears to be the most pressing issue AND you can also make lots of assumptions about why it’s there (and how to fix it) BUT the root cause of it can be so widely different to what you’d expect. And when you follow the energy, to where the energy wants to flow and how it wants to be expressed, it can be an amazing and rewarding journey at the same time as resolving the problem you started with!

EVERYONE BENEFITS

Energy coaching will often choose the most appropriate person in the family to ‘do the work’ and when that person does the energy work the entire family benefits. As one person changes their energy it changes the energy dynamics in their relationships, in the family, and in their home or space. Changing your energy flow internally can and does change the flow externally. Amazing!

YOUR HEART WINS EVERY TIME

Energy coaching will always insist that you BRING YOUR ESSENCE TO LIGHT. In fact, every problem in your life will continue to be a problem until you make the choices that your Heart is asking you to make. Kirsten’s Heart was pretty loud and bossy, if I do say so! LOL. But I have tended to find this with very talented people. There’s something about them that you can sense straightaway. Their Heart’s voice is strong and magnetic, but they’ve drowned it out. And when they come to me it’s like their Higher Self is sitting on their shoulder speaking to me and urging me to help it get through to them. And so, energy coaching is really the art of listening and getting out of your own way. Can you let go of what is blocking your flow and allow your destiny to run the show? When I see what unfolds with people like Kirsten, it’s pure magic. 🪄

CRAFTING A LIFE IS THE ULTIMATE CREATIVE ACT

THE WISDOM OF MEGAN HOLBECK

When I first met Megan, I was blown away by her energy. The consummate multi-passionate, multi-talented, multi-tasker, Megan has a rolling to-do list that would make most people’s eyes water with overwhelm. And yet, her enthusiasm for life never wanes, in fact, it’s infectious. Super-intelligent, articulate, witty and curious. Megan’s gift is an adventurous spirit and a genuine interest in people, in connecting, in learning and in constantly expanding her inquisitive mind. She brings a heartfelt curiosity to every person she meets, an inquiring presence that makes people feel important and valued. It’s a wonderful gift.

I’ve often felt that one of my most important tasks on our journey together has been to encourage Megan to see how fascinating she is in her own right. I have also relished helping her to embrace her multi-tasking, go-getter approach to life. This has involved encouraging her to put her innate creativity to good use devising bespoke solutions to her struggles with overload. Like overcoming her resistance to doing taxes by combining it with episodes of The Bachelor. Genius!

Most clients struggle with finding ‘time for themselves’ and giving energy to their own careers, passions, or talents. It’s a common problem. And not one that is solved easily. Modern life is demanding. There are multiple needs to negotiate. Megan is raising a family of 3 young kids. Her life is beyond busy. But Megan persistently showed up and tackled this challenge. It’s been enormously gratifying to see her demonstrate that it is possible to pursue your own calling despite juggling multiple responsibilities and competing demands. Sure, sometimes progress is slow or relegated to the backburner. But her commitment provides nourishment during these times.

However, the real work is looking under the bonnet of the “I don’t have time” problem to see what’s really going on under there. The fear of selfishness. The fear of not being a good mother. The fear of self-indulgence. The belief that your own needs are not important. The doubts about your own deservedness to follow your dreams. You get the picture. Megan’s courage and commitment to tackling these blocks is nothing less than inspiring.  

So, let’s hear about Megan’s experience in her own words. Read on for the full interview.

B: What made you come to your first Kinesiology session?

M: I had a good friend who was studying Kinesiology and it sounded really interesting, and so I dabbled a bit. But what really made me commit to regular Kinesiology sessions was the fact that it works. And when I say it works, it has helped me feel more balanced. It helped me be more aware of what I wanted and needed, especially when I was a new mother and struggling with young kids.

B: What made you continue coming to sessions?

M: First of all, I think it was about simply taking the time to think about what I wanted and needed. So even that was a big step when the kids were really little. The next step was having someone guiding me, helping me find out what I wanted without having to wade through all of the other crap. So it was, yeah, having someone to guide me through that process and narrow in on what I needed.

B: In general, what do you think stops us from having clarity about what we need and want? What do you think was your major block?

M: Putting other people's needs and wants before my own, being responsible for the family and having their needs clouding my ability to see my own needs and to prioritise them.

B: And do you think you’ve made progress with that?

M: Oh, yeah. I can remember how I used to approach it. Which was with a lot of kind of feelings of selfishness and having to justify everything to myself to try and get me to give myself permission to do what I wanted. And sometimes I slip back into that, especially for the bigger tasks, but most of the time, I just think, what do I need? And then I set about working out how to do it.

B: Nice. Can you identify what changed to enable you to do that? Was there a knowing or a revelation that helped you?

M: It hasn’t really been one knowing or one revelation. Because not putting my needs first was so tied up in lots of different parts of my life, like money, attitudes to family and attitudes to success, and all the rest of it. But there's been lots of little, actually they're not little, lots of steps along the way that have added up to a big change.

B: So, let’s explore this. Originally you came to sessions to get help with connecting with your needs and wants when you're raising a young family. But what do you think you’ve ended up getting on your journey of using Energy Coaching/Kinesiology?

M: Ahh, I think it is wisdom. And being able to access my own wisdom rather than constantly absorbing other people's.

But also, my journey has taken me from wanting to simply stay sane while raising a young family, to really making me work out what I want to do in life, to know what my purpose is. And so, what that looks like, is actually committing and putting the necessary time and commitment into my writing and into building a life that I love, to finding my people, to using my creativity and to enjoying my love of the outdoors…to making a commitment to all these other things that are important to me, as well as my family.

B: You are a writer. Let's talk a bit about how our work together has helped you, assuming it has (LOL). How have energy coaching sessions helped you in your career as a writer?

M: I had a lot of impostor syndrome, and a lot of underlying beliefs that things are only worth doing if they make money. I saw writing like it was indulgent, and kind of like a hobby, rather than a proper career. One of the main things that the sessions have helped me do is let go of these beliefs and actually commit to writing as something that's important to me. And allowing myself to put more time into it and to enjoy the process rather than feeling guilty about it and that it’s not a “proper job”.

B: What do you feel has allowed you to do that, to embrace your ‘proper job’ and embrace your purpose? What realisation gave you the green light to overcome your imposter syndrome?

M: Well, there's a couple, but one of the realisations is that even when my job is not making money, I'm learning a lot. And I'm enjoying the process. And that's worth it. Yeah, and then the other realisation was that unless I embraced it, committed to it and recognised it as something that's important to me – it was never going to go anywhere. I have to allow it, I have to give time for it, so it can become something. I don’t feel like an imposter when I am just allowing myself the time to explore and learn, and to enjoy the process.

B: Wow, I like that. What are some of the things you've been able to achieve?

M: Well, I am writing a book, which is exciting. And I started a newsletter, which I'm really enjoying doing. And the two are kind of intertwined. Also, I have stopped writing things purely because I think there's a market for these topics and instead I’ve just focused on writing things that I’m actually really interested in and that I want to write. So, what I've started writing about has changed. And that opens up lots of conversations and connections with people and writers, and editors.

B: How good. So, now that you've given yourself permission to write about things that you want to write about versus things that you think you should write about, what is that? Tell us!

M: Well, I love writing about interesting people who are doing things that that are outside the norm, whether that's as an adventure or in business. I bring together lots of things that I love and I like writing about things that tie lots of different ideas together. Like bringing together the outdoors, and interesting people who are following their own path. I am curious about what happens when people connect with other people and other things to become something bigger and better than they would have been otherwise.

For example, I wrote a piece about a small Victorian town that is one of the best traditional rock-climbing areas in the world and how the town having these climbers there has changed the town to one that's full of creativity and is kind of a bit alternative, having their own fringe festival that is huge, despite the small population. So, I like pulling together the stories of interesting places, interesting people, and the things that they love doing in a kind of unusual way.

B: Yeah, that's awesome. So, would you say that you’re inspired by people that are following their own path?

M: Yeah, definitely. And I'm drawn to it or interested in it because the people are fascinating and what they're doing is amazing. But also, I think, because it's something I've struggled with doing myself.

B: Yes. That's so cool. And so, has writing about these people inspired you to follow your own path?

M: Yeah. I mean, it's reinforcing it right. And it also shows you how you can be whatever you can imagine. So, when you read examples of other people's lives, you can see how they've done it, how they’ve followed their own path, even if it's entirely different from your own. But when you can see that they’ve done it, you can see that it’s something that's possible.

B: So cool. And so, you mentioned that the sessions have helped you tap into your wisdom. From the wisdom that you've unearthed, and I know there's probably a lot, but is there a key nugget of wisdom that you have learned on your journey?

M: Yeah, I think the key thing I've worked out is that you only get one life. Although that’s probably debatable. LOL.

B: Spoken like a true multi-tasker.

M: So, let’s say you only get one life and you don't know what's going to happen. You may as well enjoy what you're doing now. Because that's what you've got. And you can make it as good as you can right now, cramming it full of things that you know bring you joy, happiness, purpose and meaning and all the other good stuff. Make your life your own.

B: What a nugget! What is your book about?

M: Well, my book is about that. It's an exploration of how to make your life better not by destroying what you've got now, and not by jumping into someone else's life, but by making the life that you've already built or created even better by paying more attention to what brings you joy, and then getting more of that in there. And also, along the way, working out what's stopping you from doing that so you can combat it. And I’ve just recently come up with the name of Life Craft.

B: Oh, I love it.

M: You can have bushcraft, why can't you have life craft?

B: Yeah, absolutely. So good. I love the word ‘craft’ because it summarises how life is always a work in progress, getting out of perfectionism.

M: Yeah. It's also not just drifting through life but taking what you've got and making something of it.

B: Yeah. And with crafting there is patience and attention to detail, and stripping away what's not working, and refining what does.

M: Yes, I think crafting a life is the ultimate creative act.

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Crafting a life is the ultimate creative act - what a bumper sticker!

I love Megan’s story because it beautifully demonstrates how energy coaching is not about ‘fixing’ how you go about things, but about embracing it and making it work for you. When it came to Megan’s stress levels, typical therapy might have steered Megan in another direction – counselling her on how to reduce her workload and create more balance. But energy coaching calls for something different. It focuses on helping a client to tune in closely to their needs and to nurture them. It asks:

What does the person’s essence, their true nature, actually need for them to feel alive?

In Megan’s case, her inner child is as happy as a pig in mud when her life is filled with multiple interests and perhaps a bit of chaos. Joyful chaos.

I’ve loved watching Megan let go of the expectations of how she ‘should’ be and embrace what works for her. And yes, perhaps most of our sessions still begin with a rather large exhale, and me reassuring her that she’s not being lazy, but I shudder to think how the world would be missing out if she didn’t unleash her zest for life and gift for communicating to the world.

YOU’RE ALWAYS BEGINNING

the wisdom of FIONA LAWRIE (a DEDICATIOn)

Fiona (Fi) was one of my first clients. She was also one my dearest and most valued. She came for sessions regularly and over the many years we worked together we surely covered it all. From the residual grief of her father’s passing and the burning resentment due to the lost legal battle (he died of asbestosis) to the guilt she felt for being a single mum and scrolling on her phone when she should’ve been hanging out with her son. We spent many sessions tapping in to select the best suppliers, producers and even factory sites for her many entrepreneurial business ventures. We covered the painful blows of dating unavailable men who couldn’t make the effort to pick her up from the airport. And finally, I walked with her on every step of her cancer journey.

Fiona was a beautiful soul inside and out. In fact, she was stunning. Like any good Taurean, she loved the finer things in life – travelling, wining, dining, and fashion. She was stylish as well as beautiful.

But she was also funny – irreverently funny. We got along well. She often told me how much she appreciated my ability to laugh at her black humour. I still remember the session when she jokingly admitted that she felt guilty for preferring to watch Married at First Sight instead of researching cancer treatments. A joke she couldn’t tell any of her friends or family. She saw the humour in the folly of life, just as I did. And she was grateful that I could laugh at it too.

Fi was always open-minded and interested in the ‘woo woo’ stuff. We once made a pact that when she passed, she’d try to contact me from the other side so she could try out her ghostly skills and I could try out my psychic skills. That’s how we rolled.

In one of our sessions dealing with the stress and pressure she felt to make her business work, to be the perfect mother and to get the illusive romantic relationship right, her body wanted her to understand the meaning of the Tarot Card “The Fool.”

The Fool is all about new beginnings, adventures and potential. When you’re about to start a journey and ‘step out’ into the unknown. When you don’t know where you’re going and what will happen, but you need to take a ‘leap of faith’ and trust the Universe.

Fi was quite taken with this message. She absolutely loved it. She confided that the archetype of The Fool had become somewhat of a ‘mentor,’ helping her to navigate the myriad of difficult decisions she had to make. Before she’d befriended The Fool the thought of the unknown had terrified her and yet in one powerful a-ha moment of connection, she understood that the unknown was simply a natural part of the journey of life and she had the tools (faith and trust) to approach it.

For me, this was such a powerful example of the profound guidance that can come to you in Energy Coaching sessions. Kinesiology testing had pin-pointed the exact message Fi needed to hear to help her, to provide a guiding light to protect and support her on her path.

“I feel calm and open to what is coming next.”

"I consider myself an 'open minded sceptic' when it comes to therapies but I've been seeing Belinda for 4 years now and the changes in my mind set, habits and attitude are measurable.  My self worth, motivation and the way I live and love have turned around and I feel calm and open to what is coming next. I used to feel constantly overwhelmed, anxious and frustrated. Since I've been seeing Belinda I feel calm, like I'm able to listen to my body, listen, identify and trust my instinct and make the right decisions for me.  I always feel pumped and on the right track after a visit to Belinda."

—Fiona

👆 A testimonial Fi wrote for me in the early days. (FYI. I only re-read this after I’d written this article)

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The last time I saw Fi was a house call. Her stylishly decorated loungeroom had been transformed into a palliative care room. I sat by her bed, and we did a session. We used Kinesiology testing to confirm the contents of the goodbye letter to her 13-year-old son.

This session was life-changing for me as a therapist. I had never felt so privileged to be part of someone’s journey as I did that day. Truthfully, I had been nervous about how I could possibly help her prepare for her transition, but I ended up watching in awe as Fi prepared for her passing with courage, dignity, grace and above all, humour.

I recalled all the sessions we’d done in the years leading up to that moment. The intention of each session had predominantly been about healing the cancer. But you can never be assured of the outcome of your healing efforts. When and if the healing happens is up to the Divine. All you can do it listen to your inner guidance, and then like The Fool, step out with courage and keep the faith.

What I realised was that the sessions had perfectly prepared her for this moment. Fi’s body had taken us on a journey of detaching from drama, releasing resentments, finding forgiveness, owning her innate beauty and wisdom and ultimately finding a deep inner peace. In every session, the guidance of her higher wisdom had been perfect. It was all exactly what she needed, whether she was to heal from Cancer or die from it. Her innate healing wisdom had supported and guided her, preparing her for whatever outcome awaited.

Despite her frailty (and much to the annoyance of her mother) Fi clambered out of bed to insist on making make me a cup of tea.

As I watched her make the tea, I noticed it.

There on her fridge was an A4 colour poster of the tarot card, The Fool.

I felt a pang of sadness at that time. The symbology of ‘new beginnings’ seemed a little out of place.

But then I realised that this was not the case at all.

Where there’s an ending there’s a beginning. That’s life. In fact, you’re always beginning. Fi was about to embark on a new beginning, a new adventure. It was the ultimate unknown. She had no idea what to expect. But she was ready to take a leap of faith.

The Fool had prepared her well.