Why hyper-independence is such a hard habit to break
You’re hardwired to avoid the hell of helplessness. If you truly want to stop doing it all yourself, if you want to let in more love and support, if you want more help, you’re going to have to let go of your need for total control and get comfortable with the chaos of feeling helpless. Your need for control is not a psychological pathology, it’s a genius coping mechanism. Releasing control is legitimately difficult because it is a THREAT to both your SAFETY and your SUPERPOWERS.